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Being the First Daughter Is Ruining My Relationship

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Last updated: 02/05/2025
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Tochi is 27, in fancy, and exhausted. No longer thanks to her partner, but on yarn of she’s the first daughter in a Nigerian family. And that role? It doesn’t live for these that develop up.

It follows you into your relationship, your profession, and your peace of thoughts. In this interview, she shares how being “the stable one” is slowly pushing fancy out of her existence.

So, teach us. What does being the first daughter suggest to you?

It capability you don’t bring together to be a baby for too long. You develop up early. You change into all and sundry’s helper, all and sundry’s strength. Even for these that’re drained, you repeat up.

I used to be the one my oldsters left my siblings with. I used to be the one who remembered birthdays, packed luggage for faculty, settled fights. Nobody ever sat me down and stated “Right here is your role”—but” it used to be correct expected.

Now I’m older, working, and living in Lagos, but I calm feel fancy I’m parenting all and sundry. And it’s now not adorable anymore — it’s draining.

Has that affected how you repeat up for your relationship?

Completely. My boyfriend says I don’t commence up. That I’m all the time ‘handling’ things as an different of letting him in. The fact is, I’ve been the stable one for goodbye, I don’t even know what softness appears to be like to be to be like fancy.

Once I’m overwhelmed, I retreat. I don’t are looking out out for to bawl or damage down on yarn of I’m alarmed it’ll keep me ogle passe. But that identical thing finally ends up rising distance between us. He wants me to be prone, but my default atmosphere is “I’ve obtained it.”

What extra or much less things reason the most friction?

Whew. So many. Treasure as soon as I demolish plans on yarn of my mum desires me to send money. Or as soon as I’m mentally checked out on yarn of I’ve been fixing my sister’s college drama all week.

He’ll voice things fancy, “I think fancy I advance final,” and I bring together it. But I don’t know the excellent formulation to repeat that I’ve all the time had to carry folks. It’s wired into me.

He wants a female friend. I’m out here playing elder sister, daughter, emergency contact, and therapist — all before I repeat up as a partner.

Cling you ever tried atmosphere boundaries?

I’ve tried. But boundaries feel fancy betrayal in most cases. When my mum calls crying or my dad drops another invoice on me, asserting “no” feels fancy I’m letting the entire family give scheme.

And as soon as I extinguish are attempting to leisure or bring together pleasure from a date, I’m extreme about what’s going down at home. There’s all the time one thing.

My boyfriend as soon as requested me, “When extinguish you ever correct breathe?” and I couldn’t respond. I didn’t even know what respiratory felt fancy anymore.

Attain you ever feel resentful?

Truly? Optimistic. Every now and then I extinguish. No longer on yarn of I don’t fancy my family — I extinguish, deeply — but on yarn of I think robbed. Robbed of my maintain train, my maintain softness, my maintain joy.

And as soon as I ogle girls who correct bring together to be appreciated, who don’t must defend everything together, I envy them. Ensuing from I don’t know what that existence feels fancy.

What would you voice to anyone courting a primary daughter?

Treasure her gently. She’s now not icy — she’s correct drained. She’s had to be stable for goodbye that requesting succor feels international.

She would possibly well now not all the time know the excellent formulation to advise her desires on yarn of she’s spent most of her existence ignoring them.

She’s now not laborious to fancy. She’s correct unlearning the excellent formulation to continue to exist.

And to other first daughters reading this?

You don’t owe the world your exhaustion. You deserve joy that isn’t tied to sacrifice. You deserve to be held too. And in case your relationship — or family — can’t ogle that?

You’re allowed to construct your self first for as soon as. That doesn’t keep you selfish. It makes you human.

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So, teach us. What does being the first daughter suggest to you?Has that affected how you repeat up for your relationship?What extra or much less things reason the most friction?Cling you ever tried atmosphere boundaries?Attain you ever feel resentful?What would you voice to anyone courting a primary daughter?And to other first daughters reading this?

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